Detangle Yourself

Dearies......welcome to all on this lovely platform where we all can pour our true self without fear, regret and conditioning, where we are under no one's scrutiny and say what we feel in n out. We, ladies, are beautiful gift from god who are so lively, abundant, giving and find solace in giving more than receiving and still we are left with so much love, care, persistence, tolerance and sane-sense till the end of eternity and are never short of goodness that nature has given us. We are lovers, givers, friends, creators and what not?????If a woman has to be defined in a word even by Albert Einstein, the scientist would rather prefer to turn a sage than answering the question as its too complicated and rather interesting as well.......in the coming years, i would suggest a new subject of thesis to the R&D department:- role of woman in this world and i am pretty sure the findings of this peculiar subject would take the entire world by storm. The fact that we are on the second place in the list of creators after god; makes us more worthy and awe-inspiring ........isn't it? We are the best gift to mankind and why not....we create the world as a mother and we destroy the world as goddess Durga too!!!!!! We start our days with love and finish it off with bed-time stories. In between we juggle with our house duties, office worries, grossory-lists,kids's PTM's, spouse's irrational behaviour, in-laws demands, spa's and parlour's rush visits, cranky kids and their king-size homework schedules, unexpected visitors N guests, special food demands, long kitchen standing hours, sometimes eruptions like pimples and under-eye dark circles, half-slept syndrome, scolding from anywhere <3 (((((((((READ IN BETWEEN THE LINES))))))))))) forgetful behaviour and by god's grace.....WHAT NOT???????????  Though god has given us a strong heart and undaunted will to deal with all this uninterrupted day after day apart from beautiful faces and irreplaceable hearts but as ladies, we tend to overstretch ourselves by giving too much but receiving less on the other hand.....We keep on giving endlessly will it takes a toll on our physical and mental health......NO NO No....don't take me wrong.....i am not a feminist who's suggesting you to leave all this to save your health and vigour but to take it easy with yourself and sail smoothly.....Your life is not an exam for which you are practicing endlessly and you are not gonna get marks (You can't please everyone at the same time too)  ....Din't you listen to that song...EK TK MANAO TO DOOJA ROOTH JAATA HAI...SHEESHA HO YA DIL HO AKHIR TOOT JAATA HAI....One should take ME-TIME periodically to relax and rejunevate and most importantly, analyse and overview yourself:-

a. Am i fulfilling my purpose of being existent?
B. Am i at all existent and living?
c. Do i sometimes live and behave as i want to?
d. How often i indulge in my favorite activity (singing, painting, cooking, writing, watching movie)?
e. Do i fear to rise through the challenge of being a complete woman so i work 24X7?
f. Am i able to please everyone by working as per them?
g. Am i happy and content or just surrendered to the circumstances?
h. Is this my sole purpose of coming to this earth?

 HOLA!!!!!!!! they may seem to be simple questions but the answers for everybody are quite complex with many labeling me as a intruder in their peaceful lives. While on the surface level there is peace and serenity but the answers are sure to shake you up from your long buried dreams.....For me luxury of being a woman means to speak clearly what I feel inside, act what I feel is right not as per society's wishes, being able to love and live freely, to spend quality time with my family, to indulge in ice-cream licking it without feeling guilty about calories gulped, to be unapologetic about my public behavior, to be comfortable in my skin, to be comfortable with my body weight and body type, to not care any random view or comment spoil my day or mood, to wear what i feel sexy and comfortable about, to eat sleep read as and whenever I want to, to wake up early and see Sun rising, to sleep late counting stars, to introspect myself for my failures and insecurities, to relive my moments of passion and love, to accept my failures and to boast about my achievements......to do all what is prohibited and called insane in this world. I am Proud to be a woman for endless reasons and so you should be...... I am more mature than men though I look innocent, I am more capable to hit the roof again after I hit bottom, I am mentally and emotionally more stronger than men, I have the powers to make or break anything (ladies,please read in-between lines) , I am a multi tasking personality and can work under excessive pressure and doesn't boil easily, I can lure a man and can make him a saint or a criminal, I can handle pressure too cool-ly, , I can wear a dress, a mini, a jumpsuit, a shorts, a suit Sal war , a jeans and what not....I can feel what it takes and feels to create another creature inside you, I can feel the movements and kicks inside my tummy, I can give give birth from a two inch hole, I can negotiate a deal with ease, I can get seat in a crowded bus too easily, I can fly an aeroplane or go to a NASA mission, I can run a family, I can nurture complete world...do I need to say more

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Preparing my child for future ahead and meeting contingencies

As a mother of young children, i always feel cumbersome and burdened as to how to secure the future of kids who just are taking their little steps but will soon be ready with open wings to fly in their individual directions. With the rising cost of living, cost of education and to make it worse, if on any later stage my child decides to go for further higher education...will we as parents will be able to ensure that his dreams meet the reality. Suddenly the harsh reality strikes once again that in these times of creating luxuries over comforts and necessities will leave us enough saving for my kid's future and god forbid if the earning member is snatched by the cruel hands of destiny...how my babies gonna bear with the double loss of their beloved one and their beloved dreams....!!!is my child gonna sacrifice all his dreams and simply earn his bread and butter with a less deserving opportunity. As a mother....even the thought shakes me UP!! and it reminds me my duties as a guardian that some concrete steps must be taken at the right time to make my kid's future rock solid. 

As a mother, i try to teach my kids to protect themselves physically (from physical injuries), emotionally (from any emotional blackmailing or emotional abuse or vulnerability) and spiritually (by changing/interrupting my kid's thought process by any emotional jolt or cheating) but how can i protect my child financially. The simple question is open ended and hence can have many solutions but as a parent, i wanted the best.The following questions kept tinkling my mind and their answers were nowhere

A. How much i need to pay monthly/annually to receive long run benefits for my kids as and whenever they need?
B. What if i want to withdraw the money in between the periods i mentioned while taking my policy; to meet any contingencies?
C. What if by any mishap, the earning partner dies? And who will pay the rest of premium amount?
D. Are there any additional premium benefits my child can avail?
E. Am i eligible for the plan?
F. What are the benefits my child is gonna draw?
F. Are there any hidden costs i need to pay later???????

All these questions bombarded each other and made my head the titan of clashes ground till i decided to surf the internet and check myself..........

The comparisons among some of the reputed brands providing child plans were shocking and disturbing as well.Some had a big amount as premium, the other has some hidden costs to be borne by the purchaser. on the one hand, some did not assure a fool-proof payment while the other just didn't provide the facility to withdraw in-between if in case needed.........So after a through study and a complete comparison, i zeroed on Aviva Young Scholar Secure, a complete and reliable plan for a choosy mother like me. You can check yourself visiting  http://www.avivaindia.com/en/Individual/Child/AvivaYoungScholarAdvantage.aspx and playing safe with your child's future. Now the mom in me have entrusted my child's future to Aviva Who's a twin mom for protecting and saving my kid's future......What about you MOMS!!!!!!!!
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remember the last we laughed without hiccups

The other day i went to have a haircut. At saloon, i waited for some time before as some lady was getting her hair colored. Fifteen minutes later....the lady was chirping uninterrupted like a bird and thanking the lady who just colored her hair.She suddenly pulled the hairdresser into her arms and hugged her warmly. The hairdresser was shocked to see her reaction thanking her time and again as she was regularly doing this for past five years (and getting paid too") and nobody did this thing to her. The lady was tooooo happy to get her desired hair color exactly the way she wanted and was expressing her gratitude by hugging...but everybody including the one being in the main picture was too stunned to see her behavior (((((( IS SHE A SMALL KID ))))) TO (((((WHY SHE'S SOOOOO HAPPY))))) was the reaction everywhere......you must be pondering as to why i am writing this story which has no importance to adults like you and me...but it seems so on the surface level. Under the wraps, IT HAS A DEEP MEANING??????????? We all act like society's puppets and the foundation is laid in our childhood days with our elders be it parents, grandparents, relatives, acquaintances or sometimes teachers conditioning and pre-occupying our thought process and our actions....not to sound biased the most of it happens it with the fairer sex  (DID YOU JUST READ WEAKER SEX). yessssss!!!!!!! This is also a conditioning put on every girl child that you are weaker than the boys so till the time the girl grows up...the belief of her being weak also grows up within her??????????? So we as in our Indian society are too fond of conditioning that seeing a woman of 35 giggling and happy just to see her hair color make us wonder the reason behind because we have left laughing and enjoying the smallest things long before!!!!!!!!!We now wait for bigger things to happen for calling celebrations home. We simply don't relish a hot cup of tea with our friends or neighbors without a bigggggg reason, we just kill our time doodling or watching nonsense on TV but just simply does not connect with people who really matter.............The pre-conditioning has long and serious aftermaths......WHAT DO YOU SAY GUYS????????



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Welcome

Welcome to my world....a world where i am unabashedly me, full of life, full of love, full of energy, full of zest, full of curiosity, full of zest, full of everything which i feel should be with and within me to live  and treasure my life and my moments, where i can make or break my rules to make new ones, to counter any other monopolies applied to my thinking and break-free.



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